Once again, I will not negotiate with terrorists.

ohdeargodbees:

Ok, let’s try this again. 

This has nothing to do with games and is not a matter of legitimate public interest, but is simply a personal matter. I would hope and request that the games press be respectful of what IS a personal matter, and not news, and not about games. This is explicitly about my private life, which has been regrettably forced into the public and framed by people who pose a threat to my safety and well being as well as that of the people I love. I would hope that the effort people have gone through to dress it up as anything more would not be enough to have those who see it for what it is take the bait.

I am not going to link to, or address anything having to do with the validity of the specific claims made by an angry ex-boyfriend with an axe to grind and a desire to use 4chan as his own personal army. This is not a “she-said” to his “he-said”. The idea that I am required to debunk a manifesto of my sexual past written by an openly malicious ex-boyfriend in order to continue participating in this industry is horrifying, and I won’t do it. It’s a personal matter that never should have been made public, and I don’t want to delve into personal shit, mine or anyone else’s, while saying that people’s love and sex lives are no one’s business. I’m not going to talk about it. I will never talk about it. It is not your goddamned business.

What I *am* going to say is that the proliferation of nude pictures of me, death threats, vandalization, doxxing of my trans friends for having the audacity to converse with me publicly, harassment of friends and family and my friends’ family in addition to TOTALLY UNRELATED PEOPLE, sending my home address around, rape threats, memes about me being a whore, pressures to kill myself, slurs of every variety, fucking debates over what my genitals smell like, vultures trying to make money off of youtube videos about it, all of these things are inexcusable and will continue to happen to women until this culture changes. I’m certainly not the first. I wish I could be the last.

Because I’ve had a small degree of success in a specific subculture, every aspect of my life is suddenly a matter of public concern. Suddenly it’s acceptable to share pictures of my breasts on social media to threaten and punish me. Suddenly I don’t have any right to privacy or basic dignity. Suddenly I don’t get to live out normal parts of life, like going through a bad and ugly breakup in private. I have forfeited this by being a blip in a small community, while those who delight in assailing me hide behind their keyboards and a culture that permits it, beyond reproach.

My life and my body are not public property. No one’s life and body are public property.

Sexuality is one of the most personal, hurtful, and easy things to demonize a woman over, and also has nothing to do with my games. Yet large swaths of the gaming community are either unable or unwilling to separate the two. I’m convinced that my ex chose 4chan as the staging ground for his campaign of harassment and character assassination because he knew this; he knew that someone claiming to be “from the Internet” has shown up at my house once already, and he is counting on the most reviled hubs of our community to live up to their sordid reputations. This is another example of gendered violence, whereby my personal life becomes a means to punish my professional credentials and to try to shame me into giving up my work. I’m still committed to doing my small part to create a world where no woman is at risk of experiencing this. That said, I am thankful that even boards with a reputation for being the most hostile places online have been able to tell the intent behind these threads and banned them outright, seeing the hate speech for what it is, and not-news for what it is. 

As much as those leading the charge against me will do mental backflips to make posting pictures of my tits about “ethics”, the real agenda is plain as day if you give it even a moment of sincere critical thought. No one who would terrorize someone and the totally uninvolved people they love in this way on such a massive and public scale could ever honestly claim to be interested in “ethics” of any kind. These kinds of accusations have been levied against any woman of status in any industry, ever. I have been judged because, if you are a woman, you are expected to constantly “prove” yourself, and even mere accusations can somehow undo all the good you’ve done and justify any measure of depraved brutality against you. Meanwhile, I see major support thrown the way of my male colleagues when they are accused of any sort of wrongdoing. Neither of these attitudes is correct, and they are patently unfair and reductive. Nobody exists in a vacuum, and anyone can change and grow into a better person. Heroes and villains don’t exist - just regular boring-ass people with scars and fuckups and moments of brilliance. And every single boring-ass person deserves the space to keep personal matters private and handled outside the shark tank of anonymous internet boards.

Once again, I will not be addressing the specific validity of any statements about my private life. If you have good-faith questions or doubts, I am more than happy to discuss private matters in private, where they belong. But I refuse to be coerced into making my private life or anyone’s private life a matter of public record, and I refuse to be continually emotionally terrorized by people who have long decided to hate me regardless.

I’m looking forward to moving on and getting back to work. To anyone else who has had to deal with this kind of indignity on any scale, you have my undying support and my ear if you ever want to talk to someone who might understand. To the people who support my work and can see this crusade for what it is, thank you from the bottom of my heart. To those people, I love you, I always have, and I always will.

haleyisafangirl:

headcanon where james continually called sirius “barking mad” and sirius responded with “am not, dear” and it was the funniest thing ever

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shiyoonkim:

yunheechung:

"it’s natural for flowers to shake and tremble in the wind, so it is for the people."



Feel free to follow my mother-in-law who is a amazing painter, calligrapher, and poet!!! follow her at yunheechung.tumblr.com/

shiyoonkim:

yunheechung:

"it’s natural for flowers to shake and tremble in the wind, so it is for the people."

Feel free to follow my mother-in-law who is a amazing painter, calligrapher, and poet!!! follow her at yunheechung.tumblr.com/
ofcityromance:

i am quoting this a thousand times today.
RIP mike brown.

ofcityromance:

i am quoting this a thousand times today.

RIP mike brown.

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powerburial:

thecelloprincess:

theafrocentrics:

wow

holy fuck

http://www.nytimes.com/2014/08/16/us/ferguson-mo-michael-brown-and-darren-wilson-2-paths-to-a-fatal-encounter.html?_r=0
fuckyeahdickpix:

Richard Speight Jr, Instagram

fuckyeahdickpix:

Richard Speight Jr, Instagram

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mason-rhett-ford said: I don't want to pry, but after seeing your post, with you and the little guy in your arms, I have to ask. Only coz I have a daughter, who will be a year old on October 1st. Does it take a toll on him when you are out on the road, or do you have the convenience of taking him with you? Libbey my wife works as a photographer and she's often called out on the road but can't bring our daughter with her, not that I mind... but she's only a year old, I can't imagine what its going to be like later...

katiedoyle:

italicsmine:

Thanks for your question!  I don’t think my traveling has taken a toll on him—he’s pretty independent, and he’s been hanging out with Patrick (my man/his dad), and my mom—so I know he’s in good hands.  It’s been hard on ME at times. When I was away I missed him so much, and I felt terribly guilty for being away as much as I was.  But, actually, I think it’s easier that he’s 3, rather than 1, since he understands well what my job is, and why I have to leave, and when I’m coming back.  (On the other hand, if they’re really young, then your absence just becomes part of their normal existence….)  In general, I think if you communicate with your kids, and they see you happy, and they’re well taken care of by people they love and trust, then they will be great!

Good god, this is good parenting advice!

Friendly reminder that children thrive when they have multiple, stable, loving adult influences in their life. Doesn’t matter if it Mom&Mom, Mom&Dad, Dad&Dad, Dad&Grandma&Mom, or literally any other kind of combination you can think of, they’re all good. The more the better. =)

221bitssmallerontheoutside:

quillius:

thorineded:

sherlockismyholmesboy:

lee pace wasn’t kidding when he said he had to re-learn how to move his body to play thranduil

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u got sumthin 2 say you little bitch

HE TOO TWO STEPS AND WENT 30 FEET HOW THE FUCK

Lee got there in a…

pace

NO

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